Monday, April 14, 2008

More Bad news on my Mom

Unfortnately my Dearest Mom is back in the hospital. On friday she had another tests on her back to figure out what was going on and why she was in so much pain. The doctor had told her on Tuesday that he didn't feel that the back operation was a success and something else was going on. So friday they ran dye back into her spine to try to find the problem. After the test she had to go home and lay flat on her back for 24 hours except for restroom and meals.
By 6 p.m. that night we were calling 911 as she was have extreme difficulty breathing.
Her oxygen level was very low and she was rushed to the hospital. It was found that she had fluid in her lungs and Congestive Heart failure. Also they were concerned that she might have a blood clot in her lungs. They couldn't get a large enough IV in her arms after trying 14 times and numerous hospital personel trying and finally gave up. They did get a small IV in to start meds and draw blood. The large IV was need to do a test to look at her lungs and heart.
She was so swollen with fluid, her face, feet and legs, and hands and stomach. When they started the lasix for fluid they place a catherer in her and within 3 hours the bag was full. They also started giving her blood thinner in her stomach in case of clots.
On saturday they were able to get an IV in and do the the test. No blood clots in lungs, but found heart was not pumping adequately in the lower portion. The did ultrasound on the rest of her body and found a blood clot in her right leg behind the knee.
She has been on oxygen and blood thinner and lasix(fluid remover) since arriving at the hospital.
Her heart doctor came in today to tell us what the situation is now.
Because she has the blood clot in the leg and fluid in her lungs, they cannot do a artilery gram. They do know she didn't have a heart attack but to find out what or if she has blockages they would have to do a artilery gram which is too unsafe at the present. She will have to stay on blood thinner and fluid pills for the next 6 months. She will stay in the hospital until the clot in the leg is disolved and the fluid is gone from the lungs. Which hopefully will be in the next few days. She cannot have any more operations unless they are to save her life.
This whole downward spiral was started by a doctor cutting into a 79 year old womans back. This was a doctor who told her last year that her bones were to soft and weak to have any more operations He never sat down with her or our family to discuss what he was going to do to her and we didn't find out till the day of the operation. We found out when she had to sign papers for a bone donor and to have part of her bone removed to fuse the rods in place. When I said "no, she is just getting spurs removed" I was told "no she is getting rods and pins in her spine" He didn't tell her that there was a 50-50 chance that it wouldn't work. He didn't tell her how painful or how long the recooperation period would last. None of this was discussed with her or her family. So now her health is declining rapidly.
She has been so immobile for the past 8 weeks that fluids built up causing her heart(that already has a pacemaker in it) to start failing and not pumping her blood, and which case blood clots started forming.
She is now in more excrutiating pain than she ever was before the surgery and now there is nothing that can be done for that pain. Which means she will still be very limited in what she can do and how much she can walk, which means what,,more heart failure?
I begged my mother to get a second opinion before the operation, not even knowing what they were truly going to do to her. Being a older person, she trusted this doctor and wouldn't get another opinion.
And this supposedly professional neurosurgeon was talking about cutting into her again? My God, what insanity!
I am sorry for this long post,,but I am extremely pissed off and hurting so bad inside my heart.

I feel like I am watching my Mom leaving me. And it hurts so bad. This is my bestfriend.
I have tried to e-mail everyone with this news,,,but on top of every thing else my comcast e-mail account has decided to not let me send out e-mails. They are trying to fix it. I can recieve e-mails but I can't send them.
I will have to keep every one updated on this blog and try to send you e-mails through a old
AOL account that I have.
The picture above was made last year on my Mom's birthday, when she was a smiling, pain free, and happier woman.
Again, so sorry for my rant but its helped to post it here.

10 comments:

Jeanie said...

Oh, Beth. I just wish I could reach out and hug you and wave a magic wand to help Lottie. I know how very frightened you are -- not to mention angry and a dozen other emotions that are probably tripping all over one another. Is there ANYTHING I can do? I know I can't visit, but if there is will you tell me please? Meanwhile, a card is going out to her tonight.

We're all with you...

Janet said...

Beth, I don't know where to begin. This is just the worst possible news. I have been so hopeful that your mom was on the way to recovery and now this. Why, oh why, didn't she get a second opinion before putting herself through such a surgery? But I do understand about people who trust their doctors. My mom was the same way.

I am thinking of you and your mom and will continue to send LOTS of good thoughts your way. Hugs to both of you.

CattyCat said...

Oh no Beth. I am holding my breath. This is awful. I'm in tears for you. Love you both so much. It is going to work itself out, but meanwhile I'm praying to God, who is a friend, to help your Mom, and give you strength and courage to get through this. Feel your feelings and express your anger. For your health don't hold either in.

My love to you both,
Maryellen

vicci said...

Bethie....Oh my sweet girl! I am so sad to hear this news about your Dear Mom...Lottie! PLEASE know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers....PLEASE don't hesitate to ask if I can do ANYTHING...ANYTHING at all! LOVE and prayers to you bethie...your friend always...Vicci XXXXOOOOOOO

ruth said...

beth, I am so sorry. I will certainly remember lottie in my prayers. it is hell to get old--old people and children have no rights. they are just run over roughshod. and doctors, being the great gods of life and death, are not going to let you interfere with their opinions. good luck to lottie and god bless her. dean

Mary Timme said...

This is the worst news, Beth! I'm so very sorry this all happening to your mother.

Just a month or two before the stroke that almost killed her my mother-in-law had found a new doctor to put a pace maker in. Her doctor had told her that if she didn't die from a heart problem she'd have a stroke. She had the pace maker put in and had a stroke that almost killed her, would have if not for that pace maker. For a year and a half she lived in a vegatative state, before her body could quit. I think we have to know and that stuff like this happens way too often. I'm so sorry. Blessings to you and your family, Beth. I'm praying for your sweet mother.

Cindy said...

Dear Beth,
So sorry to hear that Lottie is not doing well and that you and your family are having to deal with such a painful sequence of events. Please know that I will certainly keep your Mom in my prayers.
Cindy G (TS/Crossville)

jet1960 said...

I am so sorry that Lottie is worse! Back surgeries are very serious for anyone, even younger people. Anyone considering it should be very cautious and conservative, in my opinion. I'm very sorry that all this has not had a good outcome for Lottie. I work in the medical field and I guess because of that and then dealing from the other side with it as Mom and Dad have been sick, realize more how some Doctors and medical people lose sight of their patients as real people and how little they explain and even care sometimes. I try to remember this as I work day to day.

Please know I am holding her in my thoughts and prayers.

Love,
Jill

Lisa S. Oceandreamer said...

Oh dearest Beth I am so sorry to read this about your Mom. I am also very angry reading about that neurosurgeon. I honestly cannot find the words to say, I know the pain you are in watching your Mom go through this. I know how badly you want everything to right itself and her get back to normal. I wish I could hug you, I wish I could make that happen.
All I can say is keep on top of anything and everything they do (which I am sure you are anyway).
Know you are both being thought of with love and many hugs.
I am leaving tomorrow but will try to call when I get back.
XOXOXOX

Shop girl said...

You are in my prayers,there are no words.We put so much trust in our Doctor's. I am not sure that some of them deserve this trust. I understand your anger, I found myself fighting for my parents health and getting so frustrated.
Hang on sweet Beth, I wish there was something that could make this all go away. Love, Mary